Our minds are often telling us how to view the current situation we face. When my brother died it would have been easy to think negatively and to be angry. I worked hard to allow my brain to find light in the darkness.
This meant finding reasons to stay joyful. I began to celebrate the memories we shared together. I also felt very appreciative for my parents, wife, children, friends and relatives.
The fact is there are no actual positive or negative experiences. It is how our mind interprets the current picture which shapes how we respond.
Your best gift is to learn how to retrain your thinking. This works with constant repetition. You may find that teaching yourself to focus on what is working will help you handle even the issues which feel hard.